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Holiday Care Guide: Gifts for people with major illnesses

December 10, 2016 by Sandy Allnock 15 Comments [featured_image}

You might have seen either my Bible Journaling Gift Guide, or my Art/Papercraft Gift Guide. Well this gift guide’s a bit different.

One of my readers, Heather, sent me a note about a topic she feels passionately about – and I agreed to share her message with you. I think she’s on to a great idea for this post, and if you know someone struggling with health issues, this might help you too.

Heather is an 11-year mesothelioma cancer survivor. The holidays were a hard time for her family and friends, from splitting time between home and the hospital to figuring out what gifts were appropriate for someone who was just diagnosed. She found herself getting sick or nauseous from all the food baskets, and she couldn’t drink the caffeinated teas. But to this day she is extremely grateful for the gifts that were geared toward her as a person and not the illness. Here’s some of what she said of her experience:

“I was not myself when I was going through treatment – the radiation particularly knocked me off my feet – but it was my family and friends that helped me through that time, the people that knew me best. They all had my best wishes at heart and I am eternally grateful for their generosity. I really appreciated getting a gift card to my favorite clothing store so I could have a shopping day and feel normal, one friend paid a car payment for me since she knew money was tight from medical bills, and I was most moved by a friend who donated to the Mesothelioma Applied Research Foundation in my name! It was such a touching gesture. I’d love to collaborate with you to create a “Holiday Care Guide” for your blog featuring experiences and items – including receiving hand written cards – for someone battling a diagnosis during the holiday season.” (Read more of Heather’s story HERE.)

From my own experience, it has been hard for me in the past when I have had health challenges – I didn’t know what to ask for help with, and people sometimes would provide things that weren’t always the most helpful. I loved Heather’s suggestions, and I’ve added a few to her list, too (and added a few from the comments section too!):

  • a subscription to Spotify (or Pandora, or Sirius…be sure to get a few months worth at least!)
  • soft and plush slippers or throw – it is important to be comfortable.
  • a book on tape – sometimes an actual book can be hard to focus on.
  • tickets to a local event that they would love (sports game, spa, concert)
  • a portable phone charger and cord – for times when long hours are spent waiting in hospitals and there’s not a plug nearby.
  • a cleaning/laundry service – treatment is draining so a lot of times the energy to pick up the house is not there
  • collection of travel size items – treatment means a lot of traveling back and forth to the hospital, sometimes out of state.
  • for those who can’t have live flowers or plants – make them a tissue paper bouquet or hanging mobile!
  • grocery shop – call and ask for a few items to add to your own list.
  • take out the trash for them weekly.
  • cook for them – perhaps *in* their home. the smell of home cooked food, soups, breads…mmm.
  • donate to a research foundation tackling their illness.
  • yard work – either rake/mow yourself, or hire a service for them.
  • specific things an individual may have challenges with:
    • Uber gift cards to get them to doctors appointments, or gas cards to help pay for their expense.
    • Give a mom a rest and take their kids out for a day of shopping and play – maybe bake Christmas cookies with them.
    • Or perhaps take their dog for a weekend, or set up a weekly play date at your house.
    • Scoop and change cat litter for them on a regular basis.
    • Pay a bill for them that you know they need help with.
    • If they have a PO box or a group mailbox down the street, arrange to pick up their mail for them and drop it off inside the screen door daily.
  • and of course a hand written note is always the most meaningful!

Last night I made a donation to Mesothelioma Applied Research Foundation in Heather’s name…feel free to do that too if you’d like.

Please share this post on your Pinterest or Facebook or other social media to help your friends give with compassion, too. And leave your gift ideas in the comments section, too, especially if you’ve had a major illness and have thoughts on items that would be helpful.

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  1. Candy says

    December 15, 2016 at 4:55 pm

    GREAT POST!! Sandy your heart is HUGE! Your post will help people who’s friends are very ill.
    It is always a big question – what can I do to help….

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  2. Randee S says

    December 11, 2016 at 2:04 pm

    Thank you for doing this. I know a lot of these ideas helped me when I went through breast cancer. One thing that is nice is just someone sitting with you so that you are not alone. You don’t have to keep up a conversation, but just knowing someone is there is helpful,

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  3. Tammy B says

    December 11, 2016 at 10:57 am

    Bravo on a great topic! My simple additions to the list:
    take over garbage can duty, they can be really difficult for many people – we do this for a few elderly neighbors;
    yard work: mowing, weeding, raking etc either DIY or pay for a service – it’s surprising how uplifting a tidy yard can be
    grocery shop: it can be a drain under typical circumstances – you don’t necessarily have to make a special trip, call or get a list and add it to yours

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  4. Alison Russo says

    December 10, 2016 at 7:57 pm

    When my husband had cancer two years ago, our neighbors made a gift basket with lots of cards and good wishes. Inside were gift cards to the local pizza/fast food places (so I didn’t have to cook after long days at the hospital), gas cards (lots of traveling back and forth to the hospital), dollar bills to help with parking fees, a prayer shawl made by ladies at our church (chemo made him cold), gift cards to our drug store to help pay for tissues, lotions and other medical items. His sports buddies made a poster with encouraging phrases on it and signed their names. We framed it and he treasures it still. My daughter asked family and friends to donate a Tshirt with a logo that said something about you and she made them into an awesome Tshirt quilt to keep him warm! We were so lucky to have such thoughtful friends and family. By the way, he is cancer free now and doing great!

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  5. Mari says

    December 10, 2016 at 7:03 pm

    Hi Sandy, nice ideas. I have a severe illness. I dnt care for gifts like that. Me, since my husband works and I have a lot of apptment. I rather have friends, either take me to a drs appointment, come cook or even clean my home. Thanks Maribel

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  6. Heather says

    December 10, 2016 at 3:31 pm

    SANDY!!!!! You are incredible.. I am so touched that you made a donation to MARF in my name.. You are, without a doubt, one of the kindest, biggest hearted people I’ve ever had the pleasure to know, even though it is through blogs! I love it! Thank you again for all you do.. this is such a great gathering of ideas! And the comments from your other friends and readers! So many great ideas! <3 Thank you again for EVERYTHING..

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  7. Teresa Doyle says

    December 10, 2016 at 12:23 pm

    CONGRATULATIONS Heather! You are a true survivor!
    My sister lost her daughter to a different type of cancer 15 years ago, next week. She passed away on her 23rd birthday. During that 14 month period, another sister and myself would take turns (leaving our own children/husbands) and go to her home, as she also had 2 younger teen aged children who needed guidance and “normalcy” and still be at home. We live an hour away so we’d go prepared and stay for 2 or 3 days at a time. On my days, I would go to take care of the cooking and cleaning for the family. My other sister would go and stay on the days of appointments.
    It doesn’t have to always require money to be supportive, quite the contrary. If you don’t KNOW what to say or do at a time like that….. Instead of thinking you have to say something profound, when you really don’t have the words…..PLEASE….Just ask, “What can I do to help?”

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    • Heather says

      December 10, 2016 at 3:54 pm

      I’m so sorry for the loss of your niece.. those experiences stay with us forever. How wonderful of you to dedicate so much time to her care. I don’t know what I would have done without the help of my sister in laws and parents..
      You are right! ever underestimate the power of a simple question. You hit the nail on the head!
      Thank you so much for the kind words.

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  8. creatingincolors says

    December 10, 2016 at 12:05 pm

    It is so thoughtful of you to write such a post. I’m struggling to find the right words to put in Christmas cards to a few friends who are struggling through some rough chemo treatments right now.

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    • Heather says

      December 10, 2016 at 3:47 pm

      It is best just to write from the heart. You can never go wrong.

      Reply
      • creatingincolors says

        December 11, 2016 at 5:54 am

        Thank you, Heather. I’ll sit down when I have some quiet moments and do just that.

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  9. Mary W says

    December 10, 2016 at 7:11 am

    Can’t think of a more “in the Season” “real Christmas spirit” post! Sandy, your previous challenges have taken you through a hard place that, with determination and resolve, has given you such a “giving heart” and caring spirit. Love your art and projects BUT ADORE your heart! I have a friend that is almost over the worst of Chemo breast cancer treatment after she was diagnosed with Stage 4 – about a year ago. I have learned so much about what not to give but weekly handmade cards were an easy gift. Just learned she keeps them all on a table near her bed as her private art gallery – she said they brought her happiness just having them near. It was my honor to provide the weekly encouragement notes and art and so easy to do while thinking of her and her struggles and her sweetness and life. This gift post that you have given us will be a blessing for many others that are struggling with health issues. Thank you so much for this.

    Maybe everyone could comment on your post with a suggestion that has been helpful for them and we could all update your list with more ideas. Here is my idea: I remember years ago that a friend was in the last stages of living on earth due to cancer and unable to have flowers in her hospital room. There was a curtain around her bed and no visitors other than family. She was not allowed flowers so I made 10 huge paper flowers that could be safety pinned to her curtain – very colorful but no odor or glitter. A child might like colorful paper balloon shapes with their friends or classmates names written on. You have to check with the nurses station to see what can be brought in. I found my idea worked since it didn’t take up any room and could easily be pushed back with the curtain.

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    • Mary W says

      December 10, 2016 at 7:13 am

      I would also suggest that you leave the list on your sidebar for quick reference! Not that you have anything else to do right now – LOL.

      Reply
  10. Bunny says

    December 10, 2016 at 5:13 am

    This is a good guide and I’m sure that people reading this could expand on the things that would help someone. Christmas isn’t about getting, it’s about giving. Everyone needs to teach young people so they can make this a part of their life and not just a one time thing.

    Thanks for sharing her story.

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  11. Gini Koonce says

    December 10, 2016 at 3:28 am

    Great ideas, Sandy and Heather! You’re right – for those of us who have been blessed with good health all our lives, and haven’t known friends or relatives who’ve struggled with major health issues, there’s a sense of being lost in the woods when we’re suddenly faced with trying to help when someone close gets a frightening diagnosis. Thank you for shining a light on this problem – now I see some things I can do!

    Reply

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